A CUTIE PIE: I feel a bit unsettled about a particular aspect of my relationship. We’ve been dating for seven-ish months, we're exclusive, but we don’t really call each other anything. Never boyfriend/girlfriend, no introductions to outside parties (for either of us). But something that has wormed its way into my head lately is that we’ve never spent the night together. I’m a college student with one roommate, and he has his own place but works pretty long hours with early mornings during the week. He’s been very open about the fact that he doesn’t like sleeping next to other people because he’s a light sleeper. Sleeping (actual sleeping) with a partner is something I’ve enjoyed a lot previously, and I really like him and want that kind of intimacy. I feel guilty for wanting to ask him to do something I know he doesn’t usually like, but I’m also a little hurt that he hasn’t attempted it at least once. My birthday is in the next couple weeks, and as I’m not really a tangible object gift kind of person, I was going to ask him to have a sleepover (sheet masks, romcoms, cookie dough, the essentials) where he actually stays over and sleeps next to me. Is this a bad idea? Should I ask him to do something he doesn’t like?
Here's the Thing: Flavored Lube & Sleepovers
Here's the Thing: Flavored Lube & Sleepovers
Here's the Thing: Flavored Lube & Sleepovers
A CUTIE PIE: I feel a bit unsettled about a particular aspect of my relationship. We’ve been dating for seven-ish months, we're exclusive, but we don’t really call each other anything. Never boyfriend/girlfriend, no introductions to outside parties (for either of us). But something that has wormed its way into my head lately is that we’ve never spent the night together. I’m a college student with one roommate, and he has his own place but works pretty long hours with early mornings during the week. He’s been very open about the fact that he doesn’t like sleeping next to other people because he’s a light sleeper. Sleeping (actual sleeping) with a partner is something I’ve enjoyed a lot previously, and I really like him and want that kind of intimacy. I feel guilty for wanting to ask him to do something I know he doesn’t usually like, but I’m also a little hurt that he hasn’t attempted it at least once. My birthday is in the next couple weeks, and as I’m not really a tangible object gift kind of person, I was going to ask him to have a sleepover (sheet masks, romcoms, cookie dough, the essentials) where he actually stays over and sleeps next to me. Is this a bad idea? Should I ask him to do something he doesn’t like?