A CUTIE PIE: Here's the issue my partner and I are having: her sex drive is gone, mostly because she's gained a lot of weight in the past two years, she says she's at least 50 pounds heavier than she'd like to be. Here's the thing, I truly do not give a single damn if she ever loses any weight at all, I want her just as much as ever did, looks are nice, but how a person treats you and makes you feel is so much more important to me, and I tell her I love her and how beautiful she is just the same, and God do I mean it. If she's happy, I'm happy, but her weight amplifies her every insecurity. She want doesn't to go out, ever, getting dressed is a chore that only makes her miserable, she sleeps all day long, has persistent stomach and hip issues, and all this makes her spiral and eat bags of candy, chips, and other desserts. She's more angry and short-tempered than I've ever seen her. We live together and have had sex about 3 times in the past year, she's had to keep a shirt on with the lights off throughout each time. She said she wants to go back to therapy, but says it's too expensive, so I offered to pay for half of it, she still says no. I have no desire to be unfaithful to her, but I can't help feeling a lot of resentment. On the outside everyone thinks we have a good relationship, and I feel like if I end this over that, I'll seem heartless and unsupportive. I feel like I'm doing all I can, but the world hates women not shaped a certain way, and it's hard feeling like I'm fighting an invisible force. What do I do? Where do we go?
Here's the Thing: Weight Isn't the Issue
Here's the Thing: Weight Isn't the Issue
Here's the Thing: Weight Isn't the Issue
A CUTIE PIE: Here's the issue my partner and I are having: her sex drive is gone, mostly because she's gained a lot of weight in the past two years, she says she's at least 50 pounds heavier than she'd like to be. Here's the thing, I truly do not give a single damn if she ever loses any weight at all, I want her just as much as ever did, looks are nice, but how a person treats you and makes you feel is so much more important to me, and I tell her I love her and how beautiful she is just the same, and God do I mean it. If she's happy, I'm happy, but her weight amplifies her every insecurity. She want doesn't to go out, ever, getting dressed is a chore that only makes her miserable, she sleeps all day long, has persistent stomach and hip issues, and all this makes her spiral and eat bags of candy, chips, and other desserts. She's more angry and short-tempered than I've ever seen her. We live together and have had sex about 3 times in the past year, she's had to keep a shirt on with the lights off throughout each time. She said she wants to go back to therapy, but says it's too expensive, so I offered to pay for half of it, she still says no. I have no desire to be unfaithful to her, but I can't help feeling a lot of resentment. On the outside everyone thinks we have a good relationship, and I feel like if I end this over that, I'll seem heartless and unsupportive. I feel like I'm doing all I can, but the world hates women not shaped a certain way, and it's hard feeling like I'm fighting an invisible force. What do I do? Where do we go?